In my dealings with my mother, I learned you must take the Alzheimer’s journey together. Instead of complaining about what we had to deal with, we got busy learning about this disease. There is so much information out there. We needed to find information that could help our mother. Remember I said earlier, it might be that several people might have the same condition or disease, but because people are different, you have to find out how that person’s body works and if it will respond to your treatment. If it doesn’t you can try something else. And then something else. Also if the person is not too far gone, allow them to be a part of the process.
Some of us as family members would discuss the best road to take for my mother’s condition, than leave it all on one person. That is the problem I find in most families, one lone person is handling all the problems, while the others run off and have a great life. Even if you cannot be the one who is with the parent, or relative because of distance, or work or there is one family member with a more suitable situation to take care of the person. You don’t leave them alone by not calling, or not helping out when you can. Everyone needs a break.
I have a friend that would fly home every time she could to help her sister who was taking care of her mother, by giving her a break. Even taking her home with her so her sister could have some time to herself.
Because we worked as a team we began to discover things that could help. Sometimes it was one of my other sisters that would find something. We would try it to see if it would work. We discovered there were things she shouldn’t eat. But it was a group effort.
Earlier, I mentioned that we thought the reason her brain was dying was because it needed to be fed. So we gave her Focus Factor, which did help for a while. But after our researched, we discovered her brain was dying because of all the plaque and tangles. That gave us the information we needed to go in another direction. Research keeps you involved with the journey, not just as an observer of the journey. You don’t feel as helpless because you are involved.
Also, I believe when you make your doctor your partner, it helps you emotionally, you are not just waiting on instructions and pacing the floor, but you are part of the process, you can even tell the doctor about your discoveries. We were surprised to learn that my mother’s doctor was interested in our findings so that he could see how it would help his patients. Remember most medical doctors are taught not how to help the body heal itself, but how to give pills with some very scary side effects.
In talking about doctors, I don’t want anyone to think that I don’t respect them. Because I do. I came to this point because years ago, I suffered from Mini strokes. I have had over 40 of them. My face started drooping on one side. I suffer from low blood pressure. Sometimes my pressure would drop so low that blood couldn’t get to my brain. That went on for years.
About 23 years ago, I had a full blown stroke. I was in the hospital for 10 days. After being out of the hospital for a week I went into convulsions in my sleep. I went to the Doctor the next day. I had been dealing with this condition for about 10 years. I remember telling my doctor with tears in my eyes. I just got out of the hospital, how could this be happening again. My Doctor looked at me and said, “Marjorie, some people get out of the hospital and die the next day, sometimes that is how it is.” That was the best thing he could have told me because I fired him in my heart that day. I figured I am not paying someone to help me to the grave. I never went back to him again.
I took control of my life. I said I will never trust a Doctor like I trusted him again. I went to the library and looked up everything I could find on my condition. And guess what I found, I was allergic to WHEAT. What was the first thing doctors use to tell us, not to eat white bread, but wheat was better for you. And the recommendation caused me to be ill for years.
Well, I found a natural doctor who put me on a fast, and I haven’t looked back. I hadn’t felt that good in years. I really thought I was going to die, just to be able to say, at the time of me taking that picture, I was 68 years old last year , brings joy to my heart. I didn’t think I would live this long. Or if I did I thought I would be physically messed up. But, in my studies I learned that when you first get sick, go to a natural or alternative doctor, if they can’t help you, then you go to a medical doctor.
I am 68 and I take no pills. My mother takes blood pressure pills, that it, she is 87 years old. And because of my experience I do the same with my mother. We helped our doctor, who began our partner. But we did the research. There is no way a doctor has the time to research all of his patients specific cure, we and if we have family, need to do that. That is what my sisters and I did and do. We do the research and then we see if what we are doing will interact negatively with my mother’s medication. If it doesn’t we move ahead with it. Our thought at the time was, even if we couldn’t cure Alzheimer maybe we could slow it down.
So get involved!!
I feel one of the best ways to become good on a subject is to live it. My mother has Alzheimer's. I want people to know how to continue to show respect and love, but not give up thinking there is no way out. So because I have lived with Alzheimer's through my mother and researched it I am able to write informative information.